Remy vs Ohai

I’m the founder of Remy, so read this knowing that. I’ve tried to quote Ohai’s own pages for every claim about Ohai, and to say plainly where Ohai is the better pick.

What each one is, in its own words

Ohai calls itself “Your Household Manager for Calendars, To-Dos, Emails & Family Life.” You text it, forward it emails, or upload screenshots and PDFs, and its assistant “O” pulls out the dates and adds them to a shared family calendar (“Circle”). It’s on iPhone and Android and works over SMS. There’s a free version; premium starts at $9.99 a month on their site (the App Store shows $14.99).

Remy is “the AI assistant for your life, not your job.” You sign in with Google, and Remy reads your Gmail and Google Calendar on your behalf. It catches the line that matters in the long email, gives you a heads-up before things slip, makes phone calls for you, fills in forms, and drafts the reply - every action shown first and approved with a press-and-hold. iPhone only, free during the beta.

The real difference: forwarding vs reading

Ohai’s own help article says it directly: “No, I am unable to view your inbox. I only have visibility on the emails that are sent directly to me.” You forward the school newsletter to [email protected], and Ohai extracts the dates.

That’s a reasonable design. It also means the newsletter you didn’t forward - because you didn’t open it, because it came while you were driving - is the one you miss. Remy reads the inbox itself. The PTA newsletter arrives Tuesday at 6:12 AM; at 7:00 Remy says “Nathan’s soccer registration closes Friday. I pulled the form for you.” You didn’t forward anything. You didn’t open it.

Ohai:  email arrives
       → you notice it → you forward it
       → Ohai extracts the dates → shared calendar

Remy:  email arrives
       → Remy reads it → tells you the one line
       → pulls the form → you press and hold → done

What happens after the date is found

Ohai’s job mostly ends at the calendar: events, reminders, to-dos, lists, shared with your Circle. That’s what a household hub is for.

Remy keeps going. It calls the pediatrician and comes back with “Thursday at 3:40” and the transcript. It fills in the county’s registration-renewal form with your plate number and waits for your OK. It drafts the reply to the coach. It asks three contractors for gutter quotes with your photos and tracks the answers over a week. None of it happens without you pressing and holding.

If you don’t want an assistant taking actions - you just want the schedule in one place where your partner and kids can see it - Ohai is the better tool for that, and so is a wall calendar like Skylight.

Privacy: the part that decided it for me

Ohai’s privacy policy (effective December 1, 2025) says it collects and records your interactions “including training our algorithms to allow us to execute on your requests more efficiently,” that “Human Assistants may review a subset of emails to ensure correctness and improve model performance,” and that calendar and contact data is shared with OpenAI.

I built Remy because I didn’t want my family’s life to be training material. Remy doesn’t train models on your data. When it uses an AI model to think, the request is processed and not kept; every provider is held to zero-data-retention terms, and the list is public at /ai-model-providers. You can read the longer version in Why I built Remy.

Pick Ohai if

• You want a shared family hub your partner and kids also use, with chores, lists, and a Circle.
• You’re on Android, or you want to talk to it over SMS.
• You’re fine forwarding things, and you’d rather the AI never acted in the world on your behalf.

Pick Remy if

• You want the assistant to read the inbox itself and catch what you’d miss.
• You want it to do the thing - call, book, fill in, draft - after you approve it.
• You care that your data trains nothing and no human reviews your email.
• You’re on iPhone and use Gmail.

Remy is not for you if

• You need Android or a non-Google mailbox today.
• You want a shared calendar the whole household looks at. Remy is one person’s assistant.
• You want to manage work tasks. Remy is for your life, not your job.

What’s true as of August 2026

Ohai: iOS + Android + SMS, free tier, premium from $9.99/mo (site) or $14.99 (App Store), forward-to-process, Google/Apple/Outlook calendar sync, Circles for sharing, trains on interactions per its policy. Remy: iPhone, beta, free, reads Gmail + Google Calendar directly, phone calls, forms, drafts, press-and-hold approvals, no training on your data. If any of this changes, this page gets updated and the date at the top moves.